I've seen a pretty big discussion about shipping on Twitter this morning.And shipping as a topic of conversation in the Supernatural fandom is...complicated at best.Do I ship is the next question I am sure.First off shipping isn't just about Wincest or Destiel. Dean and Lisa were a ship. Sam and Ruby were a ship. Sam and Amelia were a ship.Sam and Jessica get shipped. I kinda think there was a Jody/Bobby ship trying to happen before he died. Dean and Jo were a ship of sorts. You see where I'm going. And here's where it gets...complicated. The term 'ship" is just a short version of the word relationship.It's mainly used to describe sexual relationships though and never more than in our beloved Winchester world. I'm not a shipper in the classic sense of the word as it's used in the fandom. I don't think Sam and Dean have now or in the past an incestuous relationship.I can never get on board with Destiel as a canon thing. Because as he says himself on a number of occasions Dean loves the "company of frisky women". He likes girls sexually y'all. We know for a fact Jensen plays him straight. He's made that clear. There's this other thing that's...complicated. It's the bromance thing.Which btw is described on Urban Dictionary as the complicated love and affection of two straight males. In this case two brothers who have this great thing between them. Remember recently in Ask Jeeves when Sam's told most families don't like each other and he quickly says "Mine does"? These boys were made to be close. John made sure of it. We know for a fact Dean's one reason for getting up everyday was to make sure Sam was safe. "Watch out for Sam Dean" "Dad you know I do". he did this so they would work like one person in a hunt situation but also because he was afraid of losing one or both of them. Now I'm not a big Dad fan. I think John did a lot of things wrong. Dean shouldn't have been the one to raise Sammy etc... but he did set up the bromance from the time they were kids. Being that all they have is each other, who else are they going to be affectionate with? And why can't guys be affectionate without it being sexual? Girls hug all the time and they aren't accused of being gay. What is about guys that makes a difference? I guess, not being a guy, I may not be able to fully understand. Is it the no chick flick moments thing? Because my baby is the one who says that and yet he has them all the time. See I think Dean said that because he wasn't sure he was worthy of Sam's love and affection. Of anyone's. Which is sad. And so much a part of him and what many people relate to him for.I absolutely love the affection moments. I am always warm and fuzzy after the hugs.I love it when Dean cups Sam's face or runs his hand through Sam's hair.I love moments like this and yet I never think of them as sexual. Complicated? Yes. Everything about this thing is complicated. I guess the really big issue is not if I ship Wincest or Destiel but how do I feel about fellow fans who do? You know what? If that's how they see it go for it I mean seriously, I admit to shipping me and Dean! The wonderful part about this fandom is that you can love it anyway you want it ( forgive the Journey reference!) I pretty much accept people for who they are without judgement.What I don't appreciate is when at cons fans try to argue or accuse Jensen into accepting Destiel. He's allowed to see it his way too. That brother love deal? Sam and Dean just aren't afraid anymore to let the most important person in their lives know how they feel. I kinda suspect they never were. I have my own head canon that over the last thirty years there have been a lot of hugs, a lot of tears, and a multitude of touching that wasn't sexual. It was giving and taking the affection we all need.because without it you aren't a person. That Sam and Dean thing..the looks, the touching. It's what grounds them, keeps their humanity in this ...complicated world they live in.If at the end of the day my brother still loves me, can still look at me, I'm not a monster yet.So peeps, y'all have your head canons. ENJOY this for you. It's too...complicated to argue about. But it's a gift. This show, this relationship. However you see it, it's been given to you by writers and actors who believe in the same thing you do. This complicated love and affection. This brother thing we all wish we had with someone else. This epic love story. Family is complicated. Fandom is complicated. But it's worth it.
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